I am sitting on the floor with my boys. One is twirling my ponytail around his little fingers and babbling happily in my ear. The other is smiling at his brother while playing patty cake with mommy. Our dog is lying at my feet and the birds are chirping on the window sill. All is peaceful and copacetic.
I may be sitting on the floor with the boys and things may might be peaceful for a while, but the green monster rears its ugly head at some point. You can rest assured that if Luke is playing hide-and-seek with mommy, Nolan wants in on it. If I'm rolling around on the floor with Nolan while Luke is bouncing in the jumperoo, Luke cries until I roll around with him. Then, on cue, Nolan begins to cry because I'm now playing with Luke. You get the point.
The strangest time that they want attention from me is during diaper changes. You wouldn't believe the contortionist act I pull when I'm changing a diaper! I've got to simultaneously change a poopy diaper, wipe and try to prevent that baby from rolling away while his brother is trying to tackle either myself or his brother. Someone almost always ends up crying (including me - just kidding).
I always end up feeling like the bad guy for not being able to give one child undivided attention. They both deserve it, but I am only one person. God did bless me with two arms to hold both boys, but it's not so easy to hold a wobbly 23 pound child while his brother is crying, yanking on my hair and clinging to my back. Believe me, nothing would make me happier than sitting around all day holding my boys, but there is lunch to be made, mass amounts of formula to mix & bottles galore to wash. I can only imagine what moms of triplets go through. God didn't give them three arms.
How do parents of multiples deal with jealousy - especially at such a young age? Is there even an answer to that question? An eight month old can't grasp the concept of sharing toys, let alone sharing mommy, so is the answer just to deal with their tears?
I would love to hear your suggestions or maybe even your experiences with this. Thanks!